How to make people to like in 5 seconds or less…(No Tricks)

Just the other day, I came across a blog, where its blogger talks about his trick titled, “Sincere Complement and then followed by a Ridiculous insult”, as a way to make people to like him.

Well, there just one problem with that, not everyone will find that Trick, either acceptable or tolerable, leave alone making the performer attractive.

Foremost, if there be one thing that can make people shun you, then that would be an unwarranted ridicule or a wit aimed at them. The famous saying, “A foolish wit and a witty fool, both are reserved for the gallows“still is applicable.

So, take heed when you meet people. Never do this one thing to people whom you wish to win or at the instance of meeting them, it will make them to shun you with hate, and what more apart from getting your hands burned, you have lost them forever.

The famous story of the Boy and Wolf, still stands today

There was this boy who was employed by village elders to stay on watch for their Sheep, and more so, shout out loud, “Wolf”, Wolf”, “Wolf”, when he saw one. And upon hearing his shout, the Village would come to his rescue.

So with all assurances of hope, the boy took his guard and kept his watch. Now there came a scrupulous idea into the boy’s mind. “Why not I try, if the Villagers did really respond to my Shout, that way, I can reassure them that I am indeed watching their sheep, and in turn, I can be assured that they indeed are standing by their word”

With this fooling wit, the boy blew his horn and shouted, “wolf, wolf, wolf”. Hearing the horn, the entire village rushed to his aid. When they arrived, they found not the wolf, and upon seeing the boy, they inquired the where about of the animal. The boy replied, “Oh!, I was just testing my horn with your response time” Good I should say, replied the boy.

This got the entire village very upset. But with patience they left. Offering the boy a chance of forgiveness.

Now, as it says, every fool ought to learn the touch way. The boy goes on to repeat his folly again and again. Thus driving the Villagers to an assumption that the boy is merely ridiculing them.

As fate would have it, one day, the wolves show up. This time, a pack of 10, ravenously hungry. The boy, alarmed at his predicament, blows his Horn so hard that even the succeeding two Villages heard. When some made an attempt to run for the boy’s rescue, they were stopped with a word of admonishment, “don’t trouble yourself, the kid is playing”

Thus, the wolves had a great feast and in their menu, the boy too was featured.

Now why did we say this story. For the simple reason, when tricks such as these as mentioned by this blogger is practiced on people, soon they realize that these chaps who are ought there are adopting measures meant to solely ridicule them and they would on the contrary erect a wall that reads, “NO more Strangers”

Thus, these tricksters would make life for others who are genuinely interested in obtaining a friendship, miserably difficult. For man’s folly is often the lead example that people acquire and pass them on.

So, the bottom line is, If you want to complement a person, just Complement.

So what’s the best way to meet a stranger

Just be normal. Simple as that. But the problem is most wouldn’t even consider that to be an advice. Why? Because they had been programmed to think that they ought to be out of the ordinary to talk and make people like them.

No. The fact is, most of the times, a simple sincere smile would open up people. Followed by your introduction. Yes, you ought to be bold and brave enough to introduce yourself first. Say your name first, followed by, what you do for a living, and then why were you interested to talk to this person. The last one can be simple as, “well, I thought you are an art admirer, are you?” and then wait with a smile. She will begin to talk.

Be Knowledgeable

Be well read, why? because, People are attracted to knowledge and information. You should be able to hold an intelligent conversation. The best way would be to start on a topic that she knows and then pose a question, wait for her reply, then follow it up with some more intelligent questions. The idea here would be to make her think and then to talk.

Complement, and add a Question

If you spot a great handbag or a jewelry on a young lady. Boldly walk up and say, “hey, just a quick observation, I thought the Jewelry that you are wearing is just gorgeous, is that from Tiffany’s?”

So here you are Complementing the young lady and adding a question. That means, apart from accepting the complement, you are asking her a question which she is obligated to respond. She will respond. Now, as said early, there are no set rules for moving the conversation to the next level, the only rule is be informed and that would make you are powerhouse. No matter what the answer is, pose the next question. Something like this, “Do you always chose your Jewelry to go with your dress or someone does it for you”

It is okay if people take their eyes and pass you

Remember, all will not react the same way you wish them to react. But this I can assure you, you will not be shunned or slapped. Of course, it is not mandated that all of whom you meet are casual and free. Some might have pressing commitments to fulfill and other obligations to perform. So the bottom line is, if she doesn’t respond, just smile and walk away. The next person you meet, open with the same smile and follow the set of welcoming that I had given you.

Don’t ever feel hurt. Just move on. Life has greater things waiting for you. The moment you develop this attitude, you will automatically become more attractive even to the person who had shunned you. For the next time when you see her, you welcome her with a smile, “she would stop to wonder, what a man?”