How to make people to like in seconds or less…(Rule No 2)

We live in a world which too often pass judgments when it comes to the other person. They will not have a single clue as to what is going on or happening to this other person yet still they wouldn’t even hesitate to crucify him.

Lemonade Please

Just the other day, I was with a group of friends waiting in line at the cafeteria when suddenly a young lady barged in breaking through the crowd with a 10 dollar bill stretched out. She wanted  a glass of sweetened Lemonade.

Instantly everyone around raised an eyebrow giving her a demeanor look that would be visible a mile a away. Even some of my friends were complaining about her impolite behavior. However, the waitress was quick to serve her with a Lemonade and she gulped it as if her whole life depended on it. Guess what? It actually did.

We realized later that she was diabetic and experienced frequent low sugar. She didn’t tell us this, but when our turn came, one of our out spoken buddies raised his feelings with the waitress with a remark,”when will people learn to respect rules” To this, merely to render clarification, the waitress stepped in, “If I wasn’t quick enough, she would have ended up in Coma”

Those moments were heartening. It wouldn’t matter much even if we had stand there an hour more to receive our Coffees rather than to see someone end up at the ER, just because we didn’t have the understanding heart to express Humanity.

All of us can express Kindness, but there is a price Tag attached

Of course all of us are capable of giving love but more so too often it is conditional. Have you ever seen a dog with his master. Unconditionally it shares out its love be it what the situation be and doing all that without an element of expectation.

Yes, the key word is Expectation. We are some how programmed to add this Expectation tag with every kindness that we share or show. We wanted this other person to know that we have bestowed this element of kindness in anticipation that he or she owes us the same may not be today, but for sure some other day.

What good it is if you would only love those who would love you?

So, what good will that do? How different are we from the rest if for every act of kindness that we perform or show we would want an equivalent of it someday later.

It is imperative to understand that everyday our lives runs smoothly because someone somewhere is always continuously rendering us a perfect kindness without anticipation.

Let me explain. You are in a bus commuting to your office. It is peak time. Suddenly at the coming stop an Elderly gentleman gets in. You see him a bit shaky. Deep down you wanted to offer him your seat.

But apparently you are bit occupied with your project presentation meeting that you were to participate. So you pretend you have not seen him. But a young lady just in front of you quickly offers him her seat, which he thankfully accepts.

Someone Somewhere is always rendering kindness without Expectation

Now let us imagine a scenario where the Elderly gentleman continues to stand. Now it so happens that the driver of the bus, due to some reason was compelled to apply the brakes suddenly. Now due to Newton’s Law, all of the Passengers are jolted and thrown cause of the external force. The passengers who are standing suffer more of this force. Being an Elderly person, say the gentleman loses his balance and slips and hits his forehead at one of the seat holders.

The hit is so hard that it results in profuse bleeding. All of the passengers are shocked at the sight of blood. Now the Bus wouldn’t move further for there is a case of emergency. There are two options for the Driver. One to call the Ambulance or to call 911. In either case, the Bus is not moving anywhere.

So do you see what am trying to infer. All these were avoided because the young lady in front of you had the element of kindness to offer the elderly person her seat, without any expectation.

She has done you a great favor in ensuring that you arrive at your project presentation meeting on time and participate with your long prepared inputs, which in turn will now ensure that your contract is renewed for you to spend your Christmas, joyfully.

So the take home point. Avoid being judgmental, for we know not what the other person is going through. When we free ourselves from this fault finding act, we become on with the great minds of the world.

The Nazarene was judged all because he said, “he who has no sin let him cast the first stone” Only God can judge so let us not take this job.

This virtue alone will make you more liking to others. A mind which is free from prejudice.